I used to worry about what other people thought of me. I was afraid I would scare “normal” people away if I was too silly or weird. What if they didn’t “get” my oddball sense of humor? I would walk on eggshells around certain people because I was afraid I’d do or say something to make them angry. I would even avoid speaking to anyone whom I perceived to be more intelligent or successful than I was (out of fear I would look stupid to them). Then I learned the truth. And the truth has set me free. Now, I no longer care what people think of me. And neither should you.
The truth is…
Really, you can’t please all of the people all of the time. Let that sink in for a moment. You simply cannot be all things to all people. If you try to you will ultimately disappoint everyone. Especially yourself. It’s important for each of us to be unique and to be able to recognize what it is that makes us unique.
The truth is, there will always be someone smarter, stronger, braver, more successful and more attractive than you (and me). If we turn ourselves into a chameleon so that we can be someone whom everyone likes, we (and they) will never get to know who we really are. I don’t know about you, but I for one, do not want to live my life “undercover”.
Some people are simply mad all of the time. No matter what you say or do, they will still be mad. I tend to feel sorry for these types of people. It’s sad that they find little to no joy in life.
You know what? I have been one of those mean people. I have argued with my husband, yelled at my kids, and lied to my friends. And I’m certain I will do it again.
Other people choose to do evil things. I (like too many others) have been physically, mentally, and sexually abused. The people who did these things to me had evil and malice in their hearts. There is nothing I could have done or said that would have stopped them from doing what they did. None of it was my fault. If you’ve been abused, it’s not your fault either.
We should not judge all people based on the evil deeds of a few. There are so many wonderful, kind, loving, sincere people in the world just waiting to get to know us. It would be unkind of us to shut them out because we are worried what they might do to us or think of us.
If I chose to allow the abuse I suffered to affect my relationships with other people, I never would have met and married my sweet husband. As a result, I would not have given birth to my three loving sons. If I had refused to open my heart, I would not have the amazing, caring, generous friends I have today.
If you are reading this and you are not a Christian, understand that I am not trying to shove my religion down your throat. It’s just that Jesus is responsible for who I am, and I cannot hide the truth.
Once I submitted my life to Christ, I was able to see what true love really is. Jesus loves me and has forgiven me for all of the times I have sinned against him. It’s because of my relationship with my Savior that I have been able to forgive all of the people who have hurt me. I am only capable of loving others and looking for the good in everyone because Jesus has done the same for me.
The truth is, I no longer care what people think of me. And neither should you.
I know the truth and the truth has set me free.